My best friend

Life throws you curve balls, that's for dang sure.  As mentioned in the previous post, my life changed forever on Dec. 23, 2011 when I found out my brother had been killed in a car accident.

Life also puts people in your life for a reason.  Let me tell you about my best friend.

Abby and I, Sept. 2006 - we were so youngggggg!

Abby and I have been friends since I was in the 2nd grade. We were super close when we were little, kinda separated for a few years through the beginning of high school, and then reconnected our last few years in high school through today.  Even though we weren't so close here and there, we have always had this ability to just be comfortable around each other whenever we get together, even if its been months.  The night of my bachelorette party in 2008, Abby's entire world changed.  Her brother was involved in a terrible car accident that night and were woken up by a phone call the next day telling us the news.  I was bewildered.  Abby was devastated.  I had no idea what to do, how to console her, what to say.  So I just rode with my friends to meet her husband, and said goodbye as they drove home to face the fact that their lives would never be the same.  The next week I really couldn't be there for her like I wanted to be, I was moving into my new home, getting married at the end of the week, and trying to make sure everything was in place for the wedding. Wednesday was her brother's funeral.  How crazy that I was attending his funeral where so much sadness and broken hearts filled the air, and then two days later, had to switch gears and be excited about the best day of my life so far; Marrying my best friend.  Abby was my maid of honor, and what a great job she did. I will never forget being so amazed at how strong she was, putting on a happy face and being genuinely happy for me and J, while I knew she must still be hurting inside.

Little did I know, 3.5 years later, I would be going through the exact same thing that she had to go through.  I'll never forget that phone call, being woken up by a strange number.  Trying to silence the phone, wondering why this person wouldn't stop calling, the panic driving to the fire station, knowing something bad must have happened because they wouldn't tell us anything, the look on my parents faces as I walked into the room. I will also never forget my Aunt calling Abby, she and her mom rushing in the car to meet us at our house, and her just being there for me.  We now are bonded more than we ever knew we could be, both losing our brothers in freak car accidents, not understanding why this happened but clinging to all that we had left.  Abby was there the entire week for my family, helping out where she could and just simply being there for us.  I can never repay her for that, and I only hope our friendship continues to grow from here. I love her so much !